FROM THE DAWGHOUSE…
Grace Amidst Struggles
Why Churches Grapple with Embracing Sinners
In the grand tapestry of human existence, sin is an undeniable thread woven into the fabric of our lives. None are exempt from its grasp; we all falter, stumble, and err in our journey. Within the context of religious institutions, the notion of sin is a central tenet, yet ironically, it is often in dealing with sinners that these establishments encounter their greatest challenges, particularly when it comes to addictions such as alcohol, drugs, pornography, gambling, social media, work, and more.
Churches, known for being sanctuaries of grace and redemption, often find themselves wrestling with the very essence of their purpose when confronted with the complexities of human frailty. Why is it that these hallowed spaces, intended as beacons of hope and refuge for all, struggle so profoundly in embracing those deemed as sinners, a category that encompasses every soul that walks through their doors?
One key factor contributing to this struggle lies in the inherent tension between doctrine and compassion. Many religious traditions uphold moral codes and principles that delineate right from wrong, guiding believers toward virtuous living. However, in the fervor to uphold these standards, there can arise a rigid adherence to legalism, wherein the emphasis shifts from extending grace to enforcing judgment. This legalistic mindset erects barriers rather than bridges, fostering an environment where sinners feel ostracized rather than embraced.
Moreover, societal expectations and cultural influences often seep into the fabric of church communities, shaping attitudes and behaviors within their midst. In an era characterized by the pursuit of perfectionism and the relentless pursuit of image, individuals grappling with their own imperfections may feel compelled to conceal their struggles, fearing rejection or condemnation from their church peers. Consequently, churches may inadvertently perpetuate a culture of pretense, where authenticity is sacrificed at the altar of appearances.
Furthermore, the hierarchical structure inherent in many churches can exacerbate the struggle in dealing with sinners. Clergy and lay leaders, while tasked with shepherding the flock and offering pastoral care, may themselves grapple with their own vulnerabilities and shortcomings. Fear of tarnishing one’s reputation or authority can lead to a reluctance to acknowledge personal struggles openly, creating a facade of infallibility that is both unrealistic and damaging.
In doing so, the very individuals entrusted with extending grace may inadvertently perpetuate a culture of shame and secrecy.
Nevertheless, amidst these challenges lies the timeless message of grace and redemption that lies at the heart of the Christian faith.
The life and teachings of Jesus Christ exemplify a radical inclusivity that transcends societal norms and religious boundaries, extending compassion and forgiveness to all, regardless of their past transgressions. It is this transformative grace that churches – and men of Forge – must strive to embody, creating spaces where sinners (all of us) are not only welcomed but embraced with open arms. Yes, even if it is that elephant in the room addiction like pornography that Nate Larkin of the Sampson Society spoke to us about recently.
So, how can we, and churches, navigate this delicate balance between upholding doctrinal integrity and extending radical grace?
First, there must be a renewed emphasis on fostering authentic communities, where individuals are encouraged to share all struggles openly without fear of judgment or condemnation. This requires cultivating an environment of vulnerability and empathy, where individuals feel safe to wrestle with their imperfections without fear of reprisal. Forge, of course, is the perfect place for this to happen. But the Church needs to step up in a major way, as well.
We all must endeavor to embody the principles of mercy and compassion in our interactions with one another and the wider community. This entails actively reaching out to those on the margins, extending a hand of friendship and support to those who may feel marginalized or excluded. By embodying the principles of grace and compassion in their actions, churches can serve as beacons of hope and healing for all who seek refuge within their walls.
While the struggle to embrace sinners within the church may be profound, it is not insurmountable, particularly if the men of Forge begin to step up in their own churches. By cultivating a culture of grace, compassion, and authenticity, churches can become truly transformative spaces where all are welcomed, accepted, and embraced, regardless of their past (or current) transgressions. In doing so, we can fulfill the sacred mandate to embody the radical love and inclusivity exemplified by the life and teachings of Jesus Christ.
A closing thought…
Something that Nate shared in his message was that Jesus revealed Himself to Nate in the cellar of a church where men who were deeply flawed were sent to be out the way, so as not to stain the rest of the believers upstairs (my paraphrase). The good news, Jesus revealed Himself to Nate, and an amazing lifelong journey began anew – inside and outside the church.
Likewise, as a recovering alcoholic of 36 years, and one who grew up in the church from the day I was born, I too came to a deeply personal relationship with Jesus Christ in the halls of alcoholics anonymous, not the church. The point? The point is that Jesus goes to where the sick people are, which all too often doesn’t appear to be the church. As He
says in Mark 2:17, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”
Listen, I love church. I love my church.
But if those who are wrestling deeply with sin and addiction only find refuge outside the church, then there is something deeply wrong with who we are.
We can do better and must do better. Blessings.
Joe Bouch
FORGE WINTER SPRINGS
