“Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.” Proverbs 18:1
This proverb addresses a tendency typical in many men: to live their lives in isolation, which I see as living without close friendships and relationships with others around them in which there is a warm, open and loving give and take in life. Isolation is the absence of an iron sharpens iron approach to life. It is the way of marital anti-intimacy.
Men can live in isolation and not be hermits. We can isolate ourselves by being around people and yet not asking for the input of others, by not telling others (even our wives) what’s going on in our inner lives (fears, joys, etc.). By being indecipherable.
Men can be reclusive in the sense of being around people just long enough to get our work done and family taken care of but without really entering in to relationships so we can do our hobbies, or flirt with alcohol or porn or gaming or some other self-pursuit.
Men can be divisive figures wherever they go and by their divisiveness isolate themselves- ie, push people away.
Ultimately there is an antisocial focus here that the Father says is selfish-seeking- pursuing our own desires rather than seeing life as being there for others. This Proverb says cultivating isolation stomps into the ground all sound judgment and wisdom. Isolation thus is the path of the fool.
Do you have a tendency to isolation?
How does the Gospel of Jesus lead us men into community and a non-isolationist view of life?
How can you benefit from closer relationships?
What seems to be getting in the way of you letting people into your life?
Proverbs always leads us to ask leading questions about the life we’re living and makes us think about the life we want to life!
What life do you want?
Ask…think…and let the Father’s Grace energize you in growing manhood.
Strength and Courage,